Domestic Violence & Abuse

 
 
If you are living with a person who is violent or threatening to you or your children, you may need to leave home, at least temporarily, to protect yourself. If you feel at immediate risk in your home, we can help you.
The Government has released a page with information related to Coronavirus and Domestic Abuse and how to get help
 
Please see:
 

In an Emergency

Dial 999, or you can contact the Police on 101

If you are unable to speak safely, make yourself heard by coughing, tapping the handset or - once prompted by the automated system - by pressing 55. Make Yourself Heard guide

 

How to Get Help - Local Services

Worth Services
Supporting men, women & young people
Tel: 0330 2228181

Safe in Sussex

0330 333 7416

http://www.safeinsussex.org/

 My Sisters' House CIC

01243 697800

Veritas Justice (Stalking Support)

01273 234773

http://veritas-justice.co.uk/

West Sussex Family Assist 

https://west-sussex-family-assist.custhelp.com

Safe Space Sussex

A list of all Sussex help and support which can be searched geographically

www.safespacesussex.org.uk/

   

 

How to Get Help - National Services

 

National Domestic Abuse 24 hour helpline
Can amongst other support help to find
refuge vacancies

0808 2000 247

www.womensaid.org.uk
www.loverespect.co.uk

Mens Advice Line

http://www.mensadviceline.org.uk/
Help and Support for male victims of DV across the UK

Hourglass (harm and abuse of older people)

0808 808 8141

www.wearehourglass.org

Citizens Advice Bureau (CAB)

Tel: 08444 99 41 88

www.citizensadvice.org.uk

 

The Suzy Lamplugh Trust (stalking support)

https://www.suzylamplugh.org/

0808 802 0300

 

Samaritans are available to talk about any subject and can be reached on 116 123.

https://www.samaritans.org/

Worried about Your Behaviour?
Respect

0808 802 4040

email: info@respect.uk.net

www.respectphoneline.org.uk

 

 

 

How to Get Help - Multiple Languages

Polish / Polskie

https://pincic.org/
https://www.vestasfs.org/
https://1q7dqy2unor827bqjls0c4rn-wpengine.netdna-ssl.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Survivors-Handbook-Polish-may-08.pdf
www.westsussex.gov.uk/media/2005/ws1094_worth_leaflet_polish.pdf
https://polishpsychologists.org/, email: konsultacje@polishpsychologists.org
https://www.vestasfs.org/domesticviolence

Bulgarian / български

https://www.westsussex.gov.uk/media/2001/ws1094_worth_leaflet_bulgarian.pdf

Lithuanian / Lietuvis

https://www.westsussex.gov.uk/media/2006/ws1094_worth_leaflet_lithuanian.pdf

Russian / русский

https://www.westsussex.gov.uk/media/1997/ws1094_worth_leaflet_russian.pdf

Romanian / Română

https://www.westsussex.gov.uk/media/1991/ws1094_worth_leaflet_romanian.pdf

Portuguese / Português

https://www.westsussex.gov.uk/media/1998/ws1094_worth_leaflet_portuguese.pdf

Other languages

https://www.westsussex.gov.uk/fire-emergencies-and-crime/domestic-abuse/local-support-for-people-being-abused/

 

Stalking

The National Stalking Helpline provides advice and guidance if you are being made to feel harassed or intimidated by the behaviour of another person or know someone who is. They can be contacted on 0808 802 0300.
https://www.suzylamplugh.org/pages/category/national-stalking-helpline

Paladin National Stalking Advocacy Service provides advice to all survivors of stalking and professionals working with them.
https://paladinservice.co.uk/

 

What is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic Abuse is NOT Love.pdf [pdf] 657KB

Domestic abuse is threatening behaviour or violent acts carried out by one person towards another in romantic or family relationships. It can take many forms, but may involve one or more of the following:

  • Physical abuse - the use of violence or the threat of it towards someone.
  • Sexual abuse - forcing someone to have sex or making them carry out sex acts they don't want to do.
  • Emotional abuse - repeated controlling behaviour, threats or nasty comments towards someone.
  • Financial abuse - control over someone's property or how they use their money.

Signs of being a victim of domestic abuse

There may be other explanations for these but signs include:

  • Feeling afraid around or very anxious about upsetting your partner or family member.
  • Feeling alone and cut off from loved ones.
  • Having low self-esteem and feeling that you don't deserve better.
  • Needing alcohol, anti-depressants or other drugs to cope.

Links to further support:

 

Keeping you and your children safe

How domestic abuse can affect a child

Seeing or hearing domestic abuse is upsetting for a child and may affect them in the short or long term. It can lead to the following in children:

  • Angry or aggressive behaviour.
  • Mental health issues including anxiety, depression and self-harm.
  • Not sleeping, having nightmares or bedwetting.
  • Getting into trouble or not doing well at school.

Further ways domestic abuse can affect a child, can be found on the NSPCC - Signs, indicators and effects website.

Children may also be hurt if they try and protect someone and get caught in the middle. Those who carry out domestic abuse may also be cruel to or threaten children and it has been a factor in many Serious Case Reviews (which take place when a child has suffered a serious injury due to abuse or neglect).

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/domestic-abuse

Whether you want support and advice for adapting to family life in lockdown, or you’re worried about a child the NSPCC Helpline is available

 

How you can help a child

  • Tell them what they have seen or heard is wrong.
  • Tell them they can talk to you or somebody else they trust about their feelings.
  • Let them know about services such as Childline, Kooth or The Hideout (Adults), where they can talk about how they feel.
  • Plan together what to do if they feel unsafe.
  • Further details of ways to help a child, can be found in the Women's Aid Survivors Handbook.

Further links for how to help a child: